A bride is called a daughter in law because she comes into the groom’s family as
another daughter through the wedding. Her inclusion into their family will bring
joy and happiness and will also expand their family tree and relationships. Along
the bride her whole family comes closer to the groom’s family. A whole new set of
relatives, aunts and uncles are included.
Before accepting a bride into the family the groom and his family must realize that
the bride is making a major shift in her life after her shaadi. The home she enters
is new, the people and their mannerism are also new to her and she might feel lost
and insecure in her new environment. The way she was brought up in hr parental home
might be different and the way she looks at things or people might be totally contradictory
to the groom’s family.
It is all about adjusting and accepting one another as they are. The groom’s family
must first try to make her comfortable with the new home. Allow space for her to
get around and know where is what. There has to be major shift in all the family
members as well in dealing with the new bride. The groom is the only person whom
she can open up her true feelings. So he should support her and try to balance her
relationship with him and others in the family.
The mother of the groom must understand maturely that she has come to share her
time with her son and hence must offer them freedom to have quality time together.
If the bride doesn’t know cooking or other domestic work, she can teach her to do
them as she would expect. After all she is here to stay with the family for life
and so the bondage and intimacy in the initial stages is very important.
The sister in laws in the family can be the best guide for the bride as generally
they must be of same age. Their friendship can mutually benefit each other as they
might share the same views and thinking. The bride has trusted the groom and accepted
his family for the rest of her life, so understanding her situation and making slight
changes in the mind set can help in a smooth and loving family bonding.